By David Steele
Anger
Frustration
Pain
Despair
Hopelessness
These are not feelings you’d associate with Love, but with two failed marriages and numerous dead-end relationships, at age 50 I was ready to give up and die alone.
They say it’s “darkest before the dawn” which turned out to be true as I finally took a hard look at why dating and relationships were so disastrous for me. I had two big a-ha’s-
Big A-Ha #1: My choices created my failures
Yes, I suck at dating and relationships, and if I created my negative outcomes I can change my choices and create positive outcomes. Simple, but empowering.
Big A-Ha #2- Attachment breeds desperation
By not wanting to be alone, by fervently yearning to love and be loved, I was too attached to finding a partner and selling myself out to do so.
These two radical a-ha’s pissed me off and set me free. My new mantra became “I’d rather be single than settle!” and I finally learned how to let go of my fear of being alone and commit to my personal happiness and fulfillment. I even published a blog post declaring my independence and requirements.
And one month later I met my soul mate.
Oh, the cosmic irony. The more you want something the further away it gets, while letting go and making choices with clarity and courage get amazing results.
I finally found my soul mate and myself when I chose to be “Radical.”
So THAT, my single friends, is my best answer to “Why Radical Dating.”
Now repeat after me- “I’d rather be single than settle!” and get ready to receive lasting love.
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