By : David Steele My observation is that we want to be happy, but don’t know how. This problem has been exacerbated by the messages in movies, television, and other influential media, that promote a consumer-oriented, immediate gratification society. We seem to feel entitled to be able to buy and get what we want with little effort on our … [Read more...] about Ten Dirty Secrets of Happiness
FAQ: Can Relationship Requirements be Flexible?
We're making all this stuff up. There is no scientific study or evidence about the existence and behavior of Requirements so nobody, including me, gets to have the last word about it. First, a bit of background about what prompted this FAQ: You may or may not know that in 2017 Darlene and I sold our house in Silicon Valley where we raised our … [Read more...] about FAQ: Can Relationship Requirements be Flexible?
Top Ten Tips for Breaking Up a Dating Relationship
Here’s how to break up a dating relationship positively, kindly, and effectively: 1. Be able to clearly articulate your reason for breaking up. Realize it’s probably related to an unmet relationship “requirement” that is non-negotiable and preventing you from moving forward in this relationship. 2. Make an appointment to talk. Ask to … [Read more...] about Top Ten Tips for Breaking Up a Dating Relationship
Dating With Baggage
FAQ: When I meet a guy (or gal) I like, things go well until they learn about my (insert your baggage here) and then I don't hear from them again. Should I take care of (insert your baggage here) before I date again? Should I not tell my dates about (insert your baggage here)? How can I find someone who accepts me AND my (insert your baggage … [Read more...] about Dating With Baggage
12 Year Anniversary Follow up
We just celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary and a lot has happened since our 10 year anniversary post, so here's an update. When the kids went off to college and we had an empty nest, we sold our house and have been living on our boat since 2017. More about that here. This photo is Darlene running RCI (Relationship Coaching Institute) from … [Read more...] about 12 Year Anniversary Follow up
Is It Too Late to Start Over?
Divorce or widowhood can be devastating and painful. After initially recovering from divorce or loss of a spouse and adjusting to your new life, "Is it too late to start over?" is a common question and a great sign that you're ready to move forward because you want to believe that it’s not too late. TIP #1: Rephrase "Is it too late to start … [Read more...] about Is It Too Late to Start Over?