Put simply, Radical Dating is
“Conscious Dating on Steroids.”
Conscious Dating is a revolutionary approach to dating that involves specific dating strategies and paradigms, an understanding of relationships, and the basi c skills needed for successful dating and relationships.
Radical Dating applies Conscious Dating to fiercely pursue 100% of what you really want for your life and relationship, to find and have an extraordinary committed relationship; a Radical Marriage.
Most singles, especially those over 30 prefer a committed relationship, yet we live in a time where more adults are single (47%) and fewer are getting married (51%) than ever in history. In addition, cohabitation (“shacking up” without commitment) has increased by over 1,200% over the past 30 years, with a failure rate of over 80%. Research clearly shows that commitment is the glue that makes long-term relationships work, yet fewer relationships are committed.
Why is the failure rate of today’s relationships so high?
The rules for dating have clearly changed, but we don’t know what the new rules are. We want happy, fulfilling relationships, yet we don’t know how to make them happen.
It makes sense that relationship success starts when you’re single. The choices you make when you’re single determine the outcome of your relationship.
Commitment has become “The ‘C’ Word,” equated with being trapped on a leash with a high risk of failure and divorce, yet most singles desire a committed relationship.
We’re wired for exclusive, long-term partnership. We want to find and grow old with the love of our life. Yet when we’re single and dating, we often don’t believe it’s possible or realistic, so we settle and make choices that sabotage getting what we really want.
After all, as Napoleon Hill said, “what you believe, you can achieve,” and if you don’t believe, you are guaranteed not to achieve it.
So what is “Radical Dating”?
- Radical Dating is being unapologetically strong and honest about who you are and what you really want.
- Radical Dating is being willing to say “No” to everything and everybody that doesn’t align with the life and relationship of our dreams.
- Radical Dating is believing in ourselves and our ability to live happily ever after with the love of our life.
- Radical Dating is committing to our happiness and success by taking risks and leaving our comfort zone, because we can’t achieve our dreams from the safety of our couch.
- Radical Dating is not a quick fix, but can get amazingly quick results.
- Radical Dating has no guarantees other than your personal happiness and fulfillment.
- Radical Dating is simple, but not easy.
- Radical Dating is being the pioneer of your life and embracing the journey of finding lasting love from the inside out.
Why Radical Dating?
Anger
Frustration
Pain
Despair
Hopelessness
These are not feelings you’d associate with Love, but with two failed marriages and numerous dead-end relationships, at age 50 I was ready to give up and die alone.
They say it’s “darkest before the dawn” which turned out to be true as I finally took a hard look at why dating and relationships were so disastrous for me. I had two big a-ha’s-
Big A-Ha #1: My choices created my failures
Yes, I suck at dating and relationships, and if I created my negative outcomes I can change my choices and create positive outcomes. Simple, but empowering.
Big A-Ha #2- Attachment breeds desperation
By not wanting to be alone, by fervently yearning to love and be loved, I was too attached to finding a partner and selling myself out to do so.
These two radical a-ha’s pissed me off and set me free. My new mantra became “I’d rather be single than settle!” and I finally learned how to let go of my fear of being alone and commit to my personal happiness and fulfillment. I even published a blog post declaring my independence and requirements.
And one month later I met my soul mate.
Oh, the cosmic irony. The more you want something the further away it gets, while letting go and making choices with clarity and courage get amazing results.
I finally found my soul mate and myself when I chose to be “Radical.”
So THAT, my single friends, is my best answer to “Why Radical Dating.”
Now repeat after me- “I’d rather be single than settle!” and get ready to receive lasting love.
Please note: Conscious Dating®, Radical Dating®, and Radical Marriage® are registered trademarks of Relationship Coaching Institute (RCI) and may only be used by RCI members in good standing.
What is “Radical” About Radical Dating?
Most daters are afraid to be totally honest…
Radical Daters reveal who they really are as their primary strategy for attracting and screening potential partners.
Most daters want to stay safe and avoid getting hurt…
Radical Daters go for it and are willing to risk their heart.
Most daters try to be nice and avoid hurting their date’s feelings by rejecting them…
Radical Daters are clear and honest if a potential partner is a fit or not.
Most daters want to have fun…
Radical Daters are focused on achieving their dreams.
Most daters believe it takes time to get to know someone before deciding if they have long-term relationship potential…
Radical Daters know themselves so well they can determine within 5 minutes of meeting you.
Most daters fear being alone…
Radical Daters fear settling for less than what and who they really want.
Most daters hope and dream…
Radical Daters choose and act.
Most daters have a hard time saying “No”…
Radical Daters are unapologetic about saying “No” to everything and everybody that is not a fit for who they are and what they want.
Most daters seek to be comfortable and avoid stress…
Radical Daters push themselves as seriously in achieving their relationship goals as they do in their life and work.
Most daters believe you must have an “open heart” to find the love of your life…
Radical Daters believe you need to have a plan, and take action.
Most daters believe finding their soulmate is out of their control…
Radical Daters assume that you can find what you seek if you simply look.
Scary? Challenging? YES! But Radical Dating WORKS and normal dating doesn’t.
Do what works, not what’s comfortable, it’s that simple.
Please note: Conscious Dating®, Radical Dating®, and Radical Marriage® are registered trademarks of Relationship Coaching Institute (RCI) and may only be used by RCI members in good standing.
Five Core Truths of Radical Dating
To simplify, here is Radical Dating condensed into five core truths:
Truth #1: You deserve to love and be loved
What you believe you can achieve. When you truly believe that you deserve to love and be loved you will find and choose someone who adores you exactly as you are who will be the true love of your life. Pull or magnetize the love you want and stop (unconsciously) pushing love away by overcoming the self-doubts and fears that have been preventing you from finding your soul mate.
Truth #2: Be ready and available for commitment
Your soul mate is seeking you at the same time you are seeking them. Finding the love of your life will happen when you have cleared a space in your life (and kept it open long enough) for it to be filled with what you really want. Contrary to what you might fear, when you’re ready this happens faster than you can imagine.
Truth #3: Honor your deepest needs and requirements
Be “The Chooser” by acknowledging your requirements, needs, and wants, and actively find the relationship that meets them. If you settle for less, you get less, and you won’t experience the love and connection you really want. Let your motto be “I’d rather be single than settle!” Trust that you won’t be single forever! Trust when your intuition gives you a strong, unambiguous “YES!” when you have found the love connection that meets your deepest desires.
Truth #4: Be your true self
Be fully authentic, allow yourself to be vulnerable and reveal who you really are (including the parts you don’t like) so you can connect with others and experience who they really are. This will allow you to find and attract your soul mate who will adore you exactly as you are.
Truth #5: True love requires risk
If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got. Your understandable desire to stay safe and hope love somehow finds you will not work. Finding your soul mate requires leaving your comfort zone, putting yourself out into the world, and taking emotional risks.
If you’ve ever been disappointed in love and you don’t want to repeat the mistakes of the past, Radical Dating is for you.
To learn how to translate these 5 Core Truths into action, check out our Radical Dating Tutorial.
Please note: Conscious Dating®, Radical Dating®, and Radical Marriage® are registered trademarks of Relationship Coaching Institute (RCI) and may only be used by RCI members in good standing.
Radical Dating Tutorial
- Are you single and seeking the love of your life?
- Or would you like to help singles to find lasting love?
The key to a Radical Marriage starts with Radical Dating! This program covers five principles and strategies for finding lasting love and a revolutionary approach to successfully navigate (or help your clients navigate) the confusing world of dating and relationships.
Co-authors of
Making Marriage Simple
"Conscious Dating provides a new concept for dating and insightful advice, effective exercises and useful illustrations that will help anyone who uses them make their journey to love successful. We recommend this book to anyone looking for love."
"Radical Marriage provides clear ideas, easy strategies to follow, and a 'radical' new paradigm for creating the relationship of your dreams."
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Please note: Conscious Dating®, Radical Dating®, and Radical Marriage® are registered trademarks of Relationship Coaching Institute (RCI) and may only be used by RCI members in good standing.